Being healthy isn’t just about food and exercise. Our thoughts also have an impact on our health and wellbeing and we tend to be our own worst critic. The internal chatter in our minds can be harsh – we say things to ourselves that we would never say to a friend:
- “You’re not good enough”
- “You’re too fat” / “You’re too thin”
- “You shouldn’t have eaten that”
- “You’re not clever enough”
- “You’re so stupid”
- “You could never do that”
- ………..The list goes on and on.
If those thoughts are repeated enough they can become ingrained and we start to believe them – then we’re in a vicious cycle – the thoughts bring us down, we don’t put energy into doing new things and so the thoughts are reinforced. The thoughts are often so general that we start applying them to all areas of our lives bring us down further and further………….
Step back and breathe. It’s time to detox those negative thoughts. How?
Start witnessing and catching them when they arise – when they show up question it:
- “What if I could do that?”
- “How could I do that?”
- “Who say’s I’m too thin/fat?”
- “What can I do differently”
- “Is that really true”
Look for the evidence that says this isn’t true – we tend to delete the positive things and focus so much on the negative aspects of our lives. Start looking out for all the positives instead.
This can be hard to do to start with but with practice it gets easier. If the thoughts are overwhelming, just stop and breathe, take a pause and in that pause you can question the thoughts and look for the positive aspects.
Another great way for detoxing the mind is to cultivate gratitude. Noting down a few things each day that you are grateful for really helps you to look for the positive things. The more you focus on the positive things the easier it is to let go of the negative thoughts.
Detoxing our thoughts isn’t just about how we talk to ourselves either. What about anger and resentment that we feel towards others? Those thoughts can also be toxic as we tend to cling on to them for way too long. Getting caught up in the drama. Telling everyone how bad someone has been to us, bringing them into the drama and getting their reassurance. Each time reliving the experience and all the associated emotions. Again, it’s time to stop and breathe.
When there’s anger rising up in a situation ask yourself:
- “Is what I’m about to say true?”
- “Does it need to be said?”
- “Does it need to be said by me?”
Just think about how much energy you waste ruminating on negative thoughts. if we can just allow them to evaporate – even just a few of them, think about how much more energy you’d have to focus on the good things.